It is ok to be you

So often we look in the mirror or allow someone’s rude comment to get us down about the way we look and behave, every now and then we all need a reminder that we are special and unique.

  • Recognise your special qualities. Make a list of all the positive things about you – and I don’t mean your physical traits. Think about it – are you kind? Artistic? Honest? Kind? Caring? Funny? A good listener? Tape your list on the mirror or somewhere you can see it every day to remind yourself.
  • Put your body back together. Most of us who feel negative about our bodies dissect them into good and bad parts. “I hate my thighs and bum.” “My bum’s okay, but my stomach is fat and my arms are flabby.” Appreciate your body by getting back in touch with it how it works and keeps you going. Try stretching or Tai Chi – the gentle fluid movements are great for getting in touch with the wonders of your own body.
  • Re-discover the kid inside you. You have permission to be imperfect. Still hidden away inside us all is the kid we used to be – the kid who didn’t have to worry about being perfect or about anything at all. Give yourself a break! Put a photo of yourself as a child in your bedroom or at your desk at work, so you can see it each day and remember to nurture yourself and laugh a little.
  • Enjoy your food. Eating is meant to be pleasurable. So give yourself permission to enjoy it! Food gives us energy and sustains life. Don’t deprive yourself or think of eating as an evil act. If you allow yourself to enjoy some of the foods you like, you’ll be less likely to overeat.
  • Indulge in body pleasures. One step toward being kind to your body, and inevitably yourself, is to indulge yourself. Get a massage, take a long, hot bath, use lotions that smell nice, or treat yourself to a manicure or pedicure.
  • Speak positively. Think about your self-talk. It’s surprising how often we put ourselves down throughout the day – it’s time to stop! Each time you catch yourself making a critical comment, fight back by immediately complimenting yourself.
  • See the world realistically. We all compare ourselves to people in magazines or movies, but this can make us feel self-conscious and bad about the way we look. If you want to compare yourself to others, look at the real people around you. They come in different shapes and sizes – and none of them are airbrushed or highlighted.
  • Dress in clothes that fit. When we feel bad about our bodies, we often lose interest in what we wear, sometimes dressing in shabby clothes and telling ourselves that we are waiting until we lose weight before we buy something nice. But why wait? Feel good now! Find attractive clothes that fit you now. You will feel great about yourself now not some time far in the future.
  • Be active. Movement and exercise can make you and your body feel great! Not only does exercise help boost your mood, it stimulates your muscles, making you feel more alive and connected to your body and it is good for you too.
  • Thrive! Living well will help you feel better about who you are and how you look. Strive to make your personal and professional lives fulfilling. You are a unique, amazing person – don’t forget it! A healthy, happy life can be all yours!
  • “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt

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