Not just a pretty face



Isn’t it strange that although there are no two human beings exactly alike in the world, so many of us seem to think that we must change the way we look to be like other people? Why is it so hard for us to accept ourselves just as we are and see that there is beauty in diversity and it is our differences that make us so special?

Isn’t it strange that although there are no two human beings exactly alike in the world, so many of us seem to think that we must change the way we look to be like other people? Why is it so hard for us to accept ourselves just as we are and see that there is beauty in diversity and it is our differences that make us so special? Sadly it is those very same differences that we see as ‘bad’ and want so desperately to change.

We put not only our bodies through hell trying to achieve the impossible but we make our friends, partners and families suffer as well. If we actually stopped to ask those close to us if they think we need to diet or make drastic changes to the way we look, I think most of us would be very surprised. Those who love us don’t look at our physical features and make judgements, they are looking beneath the layers and seeing the real inner you.

When we fall in love, sure the way a person looks matters and is often what first attracts us to that person but I believe equally or even more important, is the way we present ourselves. The way we dress, the way we smile, the way we talk and what we have to say are all very important factors when making first impressions. Isn’t it true that the more we get to know a person and understand their personality, the more we fall in love – or out of love for that matter?

It soon becomes more important to us that we like, respect and enjoy the company of new people rather than that we admire the way they look. Relationships are based upon how much you have in common and the way you view the world, your opinions soon become a very important factor in any partnership. Not many relationships continue where each person holds strong opposing views. You may be attracted to a person because you like the way they look, but it wont take long to realise that there needs to be more than a pretty face for a relationship to work.

If the image makers, certain pharmaceutical companies and fashion designers have their way, we will always feel outcasts because we can’t fit the ‘right’ clothes, don’t fit the ‘ideal woman’ image or just plain ‘don’t fit’. The image of the super thin model with the finely toned sculptured body is unrealistic and unreachable for 99% of the population and we must stop feeling a failure because we can’t achieve it. I think reason will win in the end and I am pleased to see that at last the world is starting to wise up to the beauty of the real woman – the stick thin fashion model is on the way out and not before time.

It can be a long road to self-esteem and may take many years of detours and dead ends before we find the way but find it we must. We must learn that real beauty shines from within and we must like ourselves just as we are, then we will know the inner peace that can only be found in self-acceptance.

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